Thursday, August 9, 2012

The Man Behind The Curtain

Have you ever had something happen to you, that time warped you right back to those awkward days of High School? You know the ones where you were insecure and got your feelings hurt every time someone said or did something that was unkind towards you? Well, that happened to me today. I was really quite surprised by it. I was going along having a perfectly nice day working at the computer when I got an email. As soon as I read it, I knew it was a mistake. It was not an email sent TO me, but an email that was ABOUT me, but meant for someone else. It was short, simple and it hurt. I shouldn’t have let it bother me. After all I am a 48 year old, confident woman aren’t I??? Petty little comments should roll right off my back. But they don’t. Instead, they turn me into an awkward 14 year old again, wanting so badly for all of my classmates to like me. But you learn very quickly in High School that not everyone is going to like you, so why did this sting so much?? I supposed that Blogland has been a safe haven for me. A place where I can look at the world through rose colored glasses and believe that everyone who hangs out here, is kind and generous, and well.... a friend. I mean it when I say things like, “hello my friends!” Because that is how I think of you all. For most of my life, most of my friends were boys or men, because for the most part, girls were mean and catty and unkind. When I discovered Blogland I developed friendships with more women than I ever imagined I would. It was great because you all filled a part of me that was empty. I know we put our best selves out here in Blogland. So much more so than in the real world. That’s what I like about it. The “real world” can be ugly. Out “there” people tend to be negative and try to make themselves feel better by bringing down others. Blogland is beautiful. Here we are positive, and encouraging. We strive to lift each other up instead of bringing each other down. I like it that way. But today, I saw the “man behind the curtain” so to speak. (forgive the Wizard of Oz reference) and it shook me a little.

I’m sure I’m over reacting. In fact even now I’m telling myself to put on my big girl panties and get over it. And in truth, after being allowed to vent to you all I feel much better. I know in my heart that I have many, many “true” friends here in Blogland (and in real life) that I am so grateful for. I guess we can’t please everyone can we???? So thank you for your patience in  letting me ramble on.

I think I would like to leave you with these words of wisdom by Mahatma Gandhi....

85 comments:

Rhonda said...

Truly surprising to me that anyone would say anything negative about you. I try not to type anything that might get into the wrong hands. My motto: think before you hit send.

I would feel the same way, Karen. It doesn't matter how old we are, we have feelings and they can get hurt.

I would have to say the only time I got hurt in blogland was over a petty thing and I got over it. I guess I gave people more credit than they deserved.

When you factor in how many adore you, and they do, it tends to ease the jolt of it. You are amazing and sweet, talented...I could go on!

Sending hugs and a big smile, xo Rhonda

Dawn's Craft Place said...

So sorry you had such a sad situation...it really is such a sad story.
It doesn't matter how old we are we still have feelings and don't expect to be blindsided.
My favorite advice...water off a ducks back.
Hugs to you sweetie

Petite Michelle Louise said...

so very sorry to hear that you have been hurt by someone's thoughtless and carless words. know that you are loved by so many....you inspire so many of us...and your beautiful "self" is cherished by us all. Remember this: "I'm the rubber, you're the glue...."

;)

Patty@Lemon Lane Cottage said...

Unfortunately even blogland has it's negative aspects. Thankfully for the most part bloggers are positive, warm and encouraging. It stinks that someone carelessly hurt you with their ugly words. I hope you don't let it influence the transparent heart we have come to love. Hang in there, Patty

Janet Goulet said...

Your description of your feelings is something we all can identify with because we've all been there. It is an awful feeling and I'm glad you feel better after sharing.

Creative Wings Boutique said...

Karen you are an inspiration and don't let others get you down...ive had the same thing happen to me and worse... people can be hurtful and the only thing you can control is how you let it affect you. please know you are sweet and a wonderful woman...
sending you a big hug,
tabitha

Diane said...

So beautifully put Karen. I don't think we ever get too old to have our feelings hurt though. So glad that we can find such wonderful support among our friends here. Blessings, Diane

Valery said...

I live by the rule that "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". We can all relate to what you are going through and I have been there myself. Sometimes people say things in jealousy that hurt and I have to be a "big girl" and try not to let it bother me. Stay positive and strong and always know that I am one of many friends you have in blog land! So happy to count you as one of my friends. Hugs <3

Laura Ingalls Gunn said...

It's been my experience that small people tear other people down in order to try and make themselves bigger. The reality is that it has the opposite effect.

Kindness does count.

You are lovely and gifted.

The end.

Marlynne said...

I can't imagine someone hurting you so, I'm sorry! You are lovely, kind and an inspiration in my book! I love my new blog you designed for me, It shows your inner as well as outside beauty!

The Feathered Nest said...

Oh Karen...I am so sorry!!! Seems reality even creeps into our wonderful blogland from time to time. I've had ugly comments...hateful artists...and other folks try to bring me down but I REFUSE! I stand my ground and what I believe in...sharing creativity and all that I love. I do hope you can rise above this and move on. You know I wish you all the best, xxoo, Dawn

Cyn said...

Karen..I am sure my "ugly" person is coming. It is really sad that there are people out there who act this way. I don't know if it is even intentional. I think some people are just "ugly" Rolling off your back is not being human...You do have more friends than you do uglies!

ImagiMeri said...

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Thank God for my aging process because I've learned so much about people through just those sort of confrontations, misunderstandings, and piss poor communications. In recent years I let those kind of things hurt me too much, and now because of the ugliness out there I've learned to love myself more. You are such a super friend, and so freakin talented, and I just hope that you can realize that you are "literally and figuratively" heads above people like that.....yes that was a nod to your height ;o)

Just listen to the positives, with your heart, and realize that you cannot be all things to everyone no matter how hard you try. But you can be the best you possible and we all love you for the phenomenal creative talent that you are.

Plus you're just a really cool lady to hang out with!

Hugs N Love,
Meri

bobbie said...

{{{{{{Karen}}}}}} I'm so sorry that happened to you ~
I'm sure every single one of us has been in that situation, even as adults.
Keep in mind how many of us like and admire you ~~~

Sandy said...

HUH???? What would there be to say???? Karen, you are one of the kindest women I know.....but boy I can see why this would hurt....ouch.....sorry...:)

Michelle Ridgway said...

Hi Karen, I have not long been following your blog and find it very inspiring and just gorgeous. I always think the need to "level" someone and knock them down says a HUGE amount about the person saying it and not about the recipient.
Remain firm in your authenticity. Those type of people just fade away.
I am enjoying your blog so much.
Hugs Michelle xx

Terri said...

I've found that most mean or ugly comments come about as a result of that green eyed monster named jealousy. Please don't let it get you down! Some time back, I went to post a comment on another blog and the person who'd posted just before me said something very mean spirited and ugly about the blogger's young child. And to one of the sweetest most genuine bloggers who LIVES for those two children of hers..... That comment wasn't even aimed at me but it really hurt to know that people can be so cruel. I think I'd reply to the e-mail and say that it must have been mistakenly sent to you. It might just make that person think twice before being mean again.

Judys Fabrications said...

Gosh, I am sorry this happened to you. I have a feeling that nastiness comes back at the person sending it, or mouthing it.That woman "will get her dues".
I LOVE the quote you have here.May I use it.I think I might just make it up into a wall hanging.

sweet violets said...

Oh honey, I'm so sorry that happened to you and that you are feeling the sting of it all.....you explained it so beautifully, and is so true, no matter how old we are or how experienced we are, it still hurts!!

You know who you are.....and you are loved and respected by so many....glad you wrote about it....in a few days you will be refreshed and feeling new again!!! hugs...cleo

Kasia Wolak said...

Girl, dont you worry one teeny bit! Dont let the haters bring you down! I think saying something behind someones back that you wont say to their face is horrible, and I'm totally with you on this! just pop on over to bloggyland where we are all waiting to see your beautiful creations, ideas and charming personality! :)

Hugs,

La Doña said...

Hi Karen,

I am so sorry that you had this happen to you. I can relate to the hurt feelings you are experiencing. I recently had someone post nonsense about me on FB. I don't have a FB account but it got back to me. I resort to prayer and forgiveness cause thats what helps me. I agree with others, people that have to bring others down usually are very unhappy and feel the need to hurt others.

Karen I admire you for your kindness, your creativeness, and because you care enough about us in blogland to bring us together as creative women.
Take care Karen.

Jenny

Victoria said...

Karen, I'm so sorry that something negative happened to you. I've always found you and your blog to be positive and beautiful.

Blessings,

Victoria

Sandycraft said...

Dear Karen, what a great dictum you've chosen to finish your post..
Send you a smile from far away from Austria...
Nice greetings Sandra

Sandycraft said...

Dear Karen, what a great dictum you've chosen to finish your post!
Send you a smile from far away from Austria.
Nice Greetings Sandra

The English Romantic said...

Hi Karen,
I really felt how you must have felt and just wanted to say that you are a great person who has inspired many and helped many more. You have been a true inspiration to me, through you I entered the world of blogging. this has been my salvation many times when I've been sad and lonely.
It has helped me through a some rough years and continues to do so.
So many others will continue to see you as a friend as I do.
Ignore the sensless idiot who did this and 'rise above it'.
Extra hugs and smiles, Angela.x

Sharon said...

I don't think that I have ever left a comment on your blog before, Karen, but I just wanted to send you a (((hug))) and tell you how much I love visiting. I can only guess that the person who "accidentally" sent the unkind email to you is a sad and jealous individual. It's hard not to be hurt or upset to know that someone could say mean things but we simply can't please all of the people all of the time, eh ;-)

Julia - "Vintage with Laces" said...

I'm so sorry for you, Karen! When things like that happen, rationality tells us not to care but we can't help it and are hurt like a young girl. Hopefully that email won't drag you down for too long. You are loved by so many and this should count a lot more.
Sending you a very big hug,
Julia

Angela said...

I'm a fairly new follower to your blog but when I read your post it really struck a cord with me. It is quite unsettling when something someone says or does shakes our self confidence (if even for a moment) and sends us back to those adolescent days of feeling unsure of ourselves. No matter how confident we are, how mature we are.... it still just plain hurts.

I have to admit that I also tended to have more male friends than female friends in school because...and no offense ladies....but girls/woman can be just plain horrible to one another!! Some people just never tend to get the whole "do unto others, send positivity into the world" thing.

Nothing any of us here say can take back that moment you had when seeing the email. But hopefully the encouraging words of those who enjoy and appreciate the positivity and happiness you spread with your blog will help ease the sting a bit. Sometimes putting on our big girl panties is harder than it seems!! I'm constantly avoiding mine, lol.

Hugs!

Chenille Cottage said...

Blessings to you, my sweet blogging friend,
I am so sorry you have experienced the disappointment of a hurtful tongue or pen. It never feels good and it can be so painful. I have been the recipient of an unintended email...from one family member to another...(that was, clearly, NOT MEANT for my eyes). I was terribly hurt. I have learned from this that no matter what...It's best to take the high ground. Not that it's easy...cause it isn't.
I once heard a woman speak about a choice that we are all given. When we enter a room we can choose to bring with us a sweet fragrance...or a stench. I pray that I will always bring a loving, forgiving, acceptable fragrance with me.
I'm so glad you felt comfortable "being real" on your post. You are right...there are so many priceless friends out there in blogland!
Have a lovely weekend!
Blessings,
Carolynn

Mimi Foxmorton said...

Ditto Terri's first line!

But, I think you nailed the problem. The Big Girl Panties, I mean. When we are young and bullied that's what The Others tell us to do. Not always so easy....no matter your age.

And there, now don't you feel better coming back to Bloggie Land with all your real friends? ;)

Huggies to you this day!

Mimi

Kathy @ Creative Home Expressions said...

I'm sorry to hear about this, Karen. I can totally understand how you feel though. One person can cause a lot of hurt feelings. It can be hard to put it aside and not let it bother you, but I hope you will try. I wonder if the person knows that their thoughtless email went to you.

Lady Locust said...

Karen,
I heard one time that it takes 10 positive remarks to counter one negative one. I hope you rcv. a hundred happy thoughts and smiles via comments to obliterate that one. Know that people love you and care about your happiness.
Many Smiles,
JoeyLea at The Locust Blossom:)

Kadee @KadeeWillow said...

Well, you know you have a friend in me and I know how pure your heart is. And I also get the "girls can mean" thing. Just recently, I had a similar high school thing happen to me. Looking at our ages, you would think we would have grown and realized our actions need to be mature also. I guess, for some, it's easy to fall back into old habits. Just read all these supportive comments you're getting and know one bad comment can't compare to these! xoxo

CottageRose said...

Hi, Karen
So sorry you were hurt yesterday. I can relate to your story; I tend to shy away from other women because they're so mean (they were in high school, and they still are). And I would NEVER start a blog, just for that reason. Which is why I admire you for doing so. You're such a sweetheart; I can't imagine anyone having anything negative to say about you. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let that one person get to you. You're a kind, wonderful, beautiful person. A much better person than them! Hope today is much better for you.

melanie said...

wow...you have been such a sweet blogging "friend" to me, even though we have never met...but like my mom used to say, "theres always one " in the crowd/room/village...
you are a fab blogger, you share advice, you host where bloggers create, and are such an inspiration! just keep being you...we/I adore you and your blog!

missy said...

The party was such a great idea..I have so many new "friends"..Such fun..BUT..I am spending way too much time on the computer now..:) Have a great weekend..

Tracie Dean said...

I a sorry you had to experience such a stupid foray of discontent from a person that no doubt knows you.

You are a very talented and creative person, with a larger than life mentality here in blog land. You inspire and motivate the masses in my opinion.

High School sucked for me, so anytime I feel like that person, I really want to run away and hide.

The fact we are supposed to be older and wiser does not seem to apply to certain people with small minds, incapable of realizing high school is over, gossip DOES hurt, and misery does NOT always like company.

Keep your head held high. You are better than the jealous deviants who only want to shake your confidence and make you weak. YOU ARE NOT WEAK!!!

You have tons of support from tons of followers and friends.
"Your quote from Gandhi was aptly put.

Your friend and faithful follower,
Tracie

Pam said...

Oh My! When will we ever learn?
Why people have to be like that is beyond me.
I too, have had cruel things said to me.
I think if your alive you have probably had something bad said to you at one time or another.
The life lesson I got from it after many hurt feeling is...
surround yourself with people you know to be true to you and shed the ones you learn are not.
People will show their true colors eventually and don't take it to heart it is more their problem than yours.
Smile, life is good,
Pam

Lois Arnold said...

I'm so sorry you had that bad experience. I think we've all had those even as adults when someone we considered a friend does or says something petty and mean. Honestly, it's not easy to get over, but we must as most aren't that way. I used the phrase "Be Nice" to my kids all the time as they were growing up -- and they are! So people in blogland, please be nice!

sandy said...

Here is what you must do and I say this sincerely: Have pity on the poor soul who took precious time out of her day to say mean things about you. Feel sorry for her that while you use your time and talents to be kind and create exquisite, beautiful things she is using hers to be hateful. I rarely comment, but I felt I had to today. Continue using your wonderful artistry to bring joy to others Karen and ignore the words of that poor soul.

Karen said...

Oh Girl.
You and I had this conversation before - only it was about me they were speaking. So - yes I know how it hurts. Even when it's just B.S. - said by someone just out of spite...it still hurts. Said by someone who you thought was your friend- it really still hurts.
But I know first hand how adorable you are - so .... they are missing out!
Big hugs from me to you. I'll try to draw something really funny tonight to make you laugh! :) LOL!
Karen

slowlaneblog.com said...

Dear Karen
I don't 'know' you. I only read your Blog but all you do and say is so friendly and warm and you come across as a very nice person, so why anyone would say something bad about you is beyond me. Often jealousy is a major factor in these things.
Please try and get over this and don't take it to heart. All your visitors here in Blogland love you and they are in the majority which makes them count wayyyyy more than one lone mean voice.

"The Jule Box" said...

Ms Karen, I'm so sorry about that stupid email!! Gosh this ticks me off and yes, it takes me back to my ignorant days of being a teenager and wanting to hit everyone who made fun of me and boys that called me names...I want to hit!!! I know how you feel, it does hurt,even those with thick skin has to feel a sting every now and then, we all have emotions and we can't get rid of them, how? we're human! I agree with everyone who left you sweet comments, You are one of the sweetest ladies I've met on the net and I feel that you are a great distant friend that I wanna hang out and go antiquing for a day or two! You are loved and cherished!! Be comforted by those who love you, be lifted by the words we send and be blessed always! Big hugs my friend, YOU ROCK!! xoxo, Jules:)

missy said...

Judging by all the comments that you've gotten about this post you need not worry..You have a ton of friends..But, my reaction would be the same as yours, I'm afraid..I tend to be very sensitive and can get my feelings hurt easily...

pattyb said...

Not too long ago I had to cut down on the amount of Blogs I was following and reading. Kept yours for sure. So I was curious when I read your comments as to your "numbers" Girl....you are rocking! I know that numbers are not the "most important" goal, but those numbers represent actual people and yes, most of us would consider those people FRIENDS, and rightly so. So there are a lot of people who get something from your frinedship every day!Pretty great percentage! I was even touched by how nicely you asked people not to steal your images!Amazing!
So you have an oportunity to Bless the person who critized you, and small person it was to have to share it with someone else. Also ask yourslef was there some validity to what they said, If so, then you have the ability to change a direction if need be. If you care about them, then ask them why they felt that way. Caring people have a hard time shrugging stuff off, but even in my own family, I have had to come to accept that some people are just mean and I would not want to be a person who pleased them anyway, if that is how I would have to act! Hope this helps some to help you resolve your feelings about an unpleasant event that caused you Pain. Blessings on your day and thanks for all of the goodness you share with all of us your friends! I love you and your blog! and appreciate so much what you share!

Missy @ Chateau Chic Boutique said...

Hi Karen! Thank you for sharing your honest feelings with all of us. I think most of us have felt the same way from time to time. It takes courage to show your vulnerability so openly. Having met you in person and listen to you speak and share at LYC, I can personally say that I know you have integrity and a humble, genuine spirit. And by the looks of your many supportive comments, you've got plenty more cheerleaders and TRUE friends than a lot of people.

Thanks for the quote, I love it!

Sincerest blessings,
Missy Watson Duffy

Claudia Tyler said...

I understand the hurt and bewilderment you feel. I've had similar situations happen to me. The best thing to do is to stand up, shake it off, pray for the person who has upset you and get on with it. Every moment you dwell in the heartache is a moment of joy lost forever. You are much loved as shown by all the outpouring of sentiment you've received. Most of us wouldn't receive that in a lifetime. With best wishes for a fabulous weekend...

Green Willow Pond said...

Awwww...I'm so sorry Karen. I don't know too many people who wouldn't be hurt by such a thing. Obviously you have a ton of blog friends who adore you.

Hurting people hurt people. I know that doesn't excuse it at all. But maybe it helps to let it go a little easier.

Keep on being your own sweet self and forget about it. We all love you!

joanne said...

sending you a big hug....

Vicki Dutcher said...

Aww - I am sorry this happened to you! I for one think you are quite fabulous! I am happy we were all here for you to vent to, and it helped you feel better! Mean people are just that- mean! :) You have a great week end and go SHOPPING! That always helps me :)

Shirley said...

I really don't have anything wise and wonderful that hasn't already been said by all these lovely friends. I am trying as I get older, to seek the positive out of a situation, no matter how awful the moment. I hope the positive is the same for you as it has been to me. We are going to continue to get hurt, because we are human. The blessing is the outpouring of love in all the comments you've received. Just reading them has been a blessing for me!
Thank you for sharing the situation with us. God Bless~

Bon said...

I enjoy your blog so much, partly because of your artful creations but also because of your upbeat attitude and your positiveness. I especially like the quote you used today it really sums up where we need to keep our head. I'm sorry you had a glimpse of someone's dark side; maybe they are a bit embarrassed right now if they are reading this. Good! From all the supportive posts you do not have anything to worry about! Blog on!

Lynda said...

I'm a long time lurker, but have never commented. It is sad that someone operated in such a mean spirited way. Still, your value is not determined by what others think of you, but who you were uniquely created to be. The body of work you have in this blog alone stands to show your are gifted with an amazing creativity and your ability to draw others in to participate in the recent "blog party" you had show your ability to reach out and touch others in a positive way.
Forgive and release this sad individual for your sake and look through your own blog to remind yourself of just how "fearfully and wonderfully made" you are!
Blessings

A Scrap-a-Teeny Girl said...

I too find it hard to believe anyone could be negative & hurtful towards you! From what I have read & learned about you through this bloggy-world, you are kind, generous, caring & confident! I don't know why, that no matter how old we are, we feel the need to please EVERYONE rather than just be. Really, just BE & let the rest roll away. We all do it, but I try to tell myself to let it fall away & just be who I believe I am & forget those that don't like what they see. I like who I am & I have enough friends & family around me who like who I am. So that UGLY person can just go away! Remember that Karen. To quote The Help: "You IS kind, you IS smart, you IS important!!" And as another bloggy person said, YOU ROCK! :)

Maureen Hayes said...

Karen,

I am truly sorry that this happened to you and that it hurt you so much. We are all human and I don't think any of us likes to have mean things said about us, or for people to dislike us, no matter how old we get. Please try to remember how many of us love you and think you ROCK, as so many others have stated, and let it help you to put this comment by this person into perspective. I have a quote that I include in my signature of my email and it says, "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle" it is by Philo of Alexandria. I try to remember this when someone is unkind to me. Perhaps they are ill, or unhappy or just lost a loved one and they are hurting and their behavior has nothing to do with YOU but with their own issues or problems. I find it really helps me to forgive and to be empathetic to others. I know I have my own days when I am not as loving or kind as I should be, and usually it is because of something with me, not the other person. I hope that others will give me some slack, and realize that I probably feel badly for what I did or said, and I try to do the same for them.

In any case, you are a tremendous person who has done so much good through your blog alone, I hope you feel surrounded by love and support and that it helps to ease your hurt feelings.

Hugs and prayers,
Maureen

Livi said...

Hi Karen, I'm Livia from Italy.
I'm a new follower... many compliments for your beautiful blog!!!
Sorry for my english...
Livia

SelenarteDecoupage said...

Hi Karen. I'm relatively new fan of you blog and I'm sorry you have to go through all of these in the same time when you creating. I had goosebumps when I read you post because it reminds me one situation from the past before I even started creating. Just a few words hurt my feelings so much and blocked me completely. I was afraid to enter the world of blogging because of the risk of negative oppinions of people I don't know.
Now I can see they are places like this where we can come and support each other.
And you have to know I will be the happiest and the proudest person on all of the world when you have
finished your work for me.....

Kisses

Diane said...

It just goes back to the old addage(is that how it's spelled) "if you don't have anything nice to say....don't say it." Some people can be very unkind. I am with ya girl. I was like you.
There are so many more + than - out there try not to let it get to you.

Mme PiNat said...

So sorry for you about all this...I know that it hurts because you are a great person and please, don't let someone hurts you because around you, there is a great circle of nice and kind persons who care about you ;-) I love the words from Gandhi, thanks for sharing and take care ;-) Love from France

Debra Howard said...

Oh girl, I know just what you mean about it transporting you back...why do people have to be so mean? I don't see how it makes them feel better about themselves. Please know that all us women out there aren't catty. I used to feel the same way too...there are plenty of us who truly want to make and be friends. We just have to band together. You keep your head high and smile and continue to be your sweet self no matter how catty or ugly they act. Cheering for you and praying for you too.
Debbie Howard

StasaLynn said...

Sending hugs and love from one awkward 14 year old to another! Love ya Karen.

Shell said...

Karen, sometimes haters are going to hate because they are frustrated with their own lives. When they see someone like yourself doing well, they get envious and strike out. Instead of using that energy to better themselves.
You keep doing what you have been doing, ignore the haters.
Sending you much love.

Kelly Neis said...

Karen, You are brave to tell your story, you did it well. I am reading your words and thinking you sound just like me, almost, I am 50. Thank you for speaking it and for the encouragement to follow from you! I really love your blog and appreciate all the effort you give everyone. God Bless.
Kelly N

Sandy said...

Karen,

I am so sorry to hear about your negative experience with petty rather than pretty and applaud you for handling it so well. Please know you have a true friend here.

Robin said...

So sorry you were hurt by unkind words. People don't realize what goes around comes around! I can't imagine why anyone would say anything but positive, wonderful things about you Karen....you are a sweetie. Have a great weekend.

Hugs,
Robin

Bohemian said...

So sorry you had such an unpleasant and hurtful experience. Negativity in any form can hurt and especially if it comes from a source we least expect! Tearing someone down rather than building someone up is just a destructive and negative energy that none of us needs. I Love Ghandi's Message because it is so profoundly True. Thankfully the Land of Blog has been more of a Positive experience than a negative one because it is mostly and generally a Wonderful Community of People connecting in an enriching way... but there are always those tortured Souls and you never know when or how they'll show up!

Blessings and a Virtual Hug... Dawn... The Bohemian

Little Miss Maggie said...

Karen, I am so sorry you had this negative experience. The truth is there are just mean people out there. It's sad that they don't have anything better to do with their time. Your blog is fabulous, and you are so creative, it's obvious you use your time and energy on much more worthwhile endeavors.

Lana said...

Hi Karen,
I am so sorry to hear that. I was always raised that if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. I think people that post negative things online or even say negative things about another person are just very insecure and do this to try and make themselves feel superior in some way.

Betsy@ coastal-colors said...

I'm so sorry you had this happen! You are far too nice and talented to let this upset you, but I understand. Just consider the source! It takes so much energy to be negative! Hold your head up high because you are amazingly creative! I'll bet they are jealous! You're in my thoughts and prayers!

Helena White said...

It saddens me to hear this, Karen I am so sorry.    I think we all have slipped back into our younger insecure selves at one time or another. I recall doing a workshop several years ago and I receive so many wonderful comments, but I couldn't help but to focus on the one negative comment.   It is difficult not to care,   however at the end of the day  if you give mean spirited people the power to affect you, you're letting them matter.   And they don't deserve any more of your attention.  After reading all of these encouraging, heartfelt messages, I hope it helps erase the uglies for you. 

Your creativity, your kindness is so appreciated. You have inspired me and taught me so much.  It is so easy to call you friend. ((((Hugs))))

Anne said...

Karen,
I am so sorry this happened to you.I LOVE Gandhi's inspirational words!So true!
xx
Anne

Joyce said...

Im sorry that happened, it would be awful to read. I hear you on men friends. WOmen can be hard to get along with and so competitive

Blessed Serendipity said...

So sorry this happened to you. The hurt you feel is real but I would love to share something with you that someone once told me after I had been hurt. Say a prayer for the person that hurt you. After all, they are in desperate need of prayer. It may even help heal you.

blessings,
Danielle

Art and Sand said...

I am surprised when I hear about people making snarky comments on someone's blog. I can't believe there are people who would take the time to be so mean, but then my daughter tells me that my Pollyana world is nto the real world.

I am so sorry that you had a bad moment. I have just been reading you for a short time, but I love your blog.

And, thanks for the blogging tips. I am still new so any tips help. Now I understand why my blog looks different on my iPad than it does on my Mac because I have chrome on my Mac.

Have a beautiful week!

Jillayne said...

Big girl panties or not, hurtful, unkind words are nasty. All of the things we know to be true about them are, even if they don't feel like it at the time.... "consider the source" was always a favourite of mine.
I hope you know that for any unkind comment there are literally thousands of us who think you are great. More than great, Karen.

JD said...

Karen, so sorry this happened to you...sending some hugs, and good thoughts your way...I love your blog, and all the wonderful things that you share.

MJ said...

Wow Karen, I have been sick and missed that post but caught todays (8/13) so had to come back and see what happened.

Isn't it sad that we still go through things like this in our adult life...so sad.

Im sorry you had to read hurtful things, which are obviously untrue. But what happens in the dark, God brings to light. I believe this so maybe he wanted you to know this persons intentions.

You are an amazing person and your posts are filled with love, beauty and inspiration.

Pull those pants up, or heck take em off and throw them out the window and laugh in joy!

MJ
Lucky 7 Design

xoxo

Luce Lavertu said...

I'm very sorry you had a bad experience like that! People don't always think before they write or speak! We have to keep our head up and keep going! We are who we are first because of people like that they make us stronger!
Bullies are small little ones not happy with themself and have to bring others down to feel better....
I wish you better days and feel better ....
Luce

~Hassie~ said...

Karen, you have a beautiful blog and I sense from your writings that you are a very warm, sensitive and caring lady. Shame on those who choose to show their evil spirit on the internet. Makes me wonder if they never heard the old saying ~ "didn't your Mother tell you that if you don't have something nice to say, then keep your mouth shut!" That's what's wrong today, in my opinion, that rude people are allowed to say whatever they want at any time. This is unacceptible behavior, in my opinion. Keep up the good work and as they say, "what goes around, comes around." Take care ~ chin up!! Keep smiling!

Renee said...

Don't allow negative folks to take up space in your head.

Go create something beautiful
Name it something related to that negative person
Sell it (and sell the memory!)

Then, have a cup of tea and continue with your fabulous day.

chicroses said...

I dont comment very much on blogland but enjoy your blog very much..plus I cant express myself very well and I am not really good with computors...anyway..just had to comment about what you have been upset about...really think maybe they are jealous. You are so talented and so many people just are as talented..dont ever underestimate yourself...sincerely sally (chicroses)

Eva said...

Take care of your self and dont let anyone hurt you.
Most of the times humans do hurt eachother and then comes love to cure and build bridges...
Wish you all the best!
I really enjoy your blog, you're doing an excellent job!
Hugs and kisses from Greece!

Eva
http://sagalia91.blogspot.com

Sheryl Thompson said...

I have adopted this quote in my later years....."There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living."
― José N. Harris

❦Bayside Gal❦ said...

It hurts I know. There are mean people out there. Unfortunately thats a fact we have to live with. Hold your head high, take some deep breaths and go on. We should not waste our time with petty people. Life is way too short.

Queen Of Dreamsz Art and Collections said...

Hi Karen,

I've been sewing so much that I haven't had time to blog or visit as I would like to. I'm like you in that I consider blogland as a positive environment for me to thrive, learn and be encouraged.

I suppose no matter where we are in life there will always be "Miss or Mr. Negative" spouting off to make themselves feel better.

You are loved and have been a good friend to so many of us. Just keep on smiling and focus on the good.

Hugs,
Steph ♥

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